Some of us (OK, most of us) moms have a hard time viewing our children as young adults or, in this instance, young women. I have two teenaged daughters and yet, I still see them like this…
That’s Deanna. She is now 14. And when I say 14, I mean almost 15. *sigh* In this picture, she was five. Five. A decade separates the present from this moment captured in time. No, no, I’m not dwelling on the past. What gave you that idea?
This is Lauren. She’s about six or seven in this picture. She was actually quite tan, from spending long days in the pool and at the lake. Now she’s 16. *sigh* Nope, not dwelling.
It is with great regret that I never had “the talk” with Lauren before it was, well, too late. I’m grateful that we do talk openly and freely about things, including the issues surrounding menstruation, and so on…but it happened before I approached her to discuss what she would be dealing with and how to deal with it and so on. I don’t know why — but I was determined not to let that happen again.
Ironically, the daughter who is now the target of all my efforts is the shy one, the one who doesn’t like to get all into emotional, sensitive topics, unless she initiates it. Figures, right?
But that’s OK, because I’m a grown-up and I can take that step and it doesn’t have to be awkward. At least, I don’t think so.
For starters, the U by Kotex Tween website has a lot of tips and tools to help make “the talk” a little easier. That’s a good place to start.
It also a good idea to utilize those special mother-daughter moments — that quality time — to find the right moments to talk to your daughter about sensitive issues, such as this one. I was able to capitalize on a fabulous opportunity recently, when I received these for my teenaged (*sigh*) daughters:
I know my 14-year-old saw this “talkable moment” coming from a mile away, but too bad. It was going to happen. So, after scoping out the contents of great little bag, I mentioned how convenient it would be to fill it with some U by Kotex Tween products. She didn’t even roll her eyes, which was already a good sign. Forge ahead, Kotex Mom!
So, this would be our “talkable moment.” That’s fine with me. I can be cool, casual, laid back. I want our talkable moment to be natural, open, and honest. And that’s exactly what it turned out to be.
I’m astute. I’m observant. I’m on top of things (well, usually). I can pick up on the right moments to turn into talkable moments with my daughter. I can. I will. Wait…I have! And I look forward to more of them. You never know when an opportunity is going to present itself — but I won’t miss it.
After all, she’s not a little kid anymore. It’s time to forge ahead and talk about what’s going on with her body — and with her life. If I’m too uncomfortable to do it, then how the heck can I expect my daughter to be at ease?
I wrote this review while participating in a Brand Ambassador Campaign byMom Central Consulting on behalf of U by KotexTween and received products to facilitate my post and a promotional item to thank me for taking the time to participate.